I wish I didn't respect him. It's easier to take criticism from those you don't respect to start with...
He also told me it would be nice if I offered the same amount of grace and compassion to those who haven't lost a child as I do to those who have.
Thing is...Losing Eva has shaped every single aspect of who I am now and I am able to offer bereaved parents grace and compassion BECAUSE of my journey of losing Eva, not in spite of it.
Truth is, I have to admit that I, too, sometimes wonder where my compassion has gone...
But the other truth is that there were so few people who came alongside Mike and I in our lonely black early days of grieving Eva and offered us grace and compassion. So few people who could empathize because the reality is that very few people experience the death of a child in our culture today. So few people...and now, if I am able to be that person who can offer grace and true compassion for another bereaved parent then that is where my priority is.
If you've just had a baby, have a backache, a broken leg, relationship problems....there are likely many people who have walked that road before you and can bring you a meal, offer you a shoulder to cry on or clean your house.
I am sorry I am not that person and that I am, perhaps, not graceful and compassionate enough.