tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post8266309543216646632..comments2023-04-01T03:49:22.593-07:00Comments on After Eva: Too risky.Emhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-36336721997139388092013-11-11T07:17:27.297-08:002013-11-11T07:17:27.297-08:00I am one of the readers who truly appreciates what...I am one of the readers who truly appreciates what you write. I have not yet reached the stage of any sort of joy, so it helps me to see that other bereaved parents can experience joy along with their sorrow. <br /><br />I am still very protective of my fragile public persona and usually avoid group events, as they are just too difficult. I am aware that others are always speculating and judging and I'm just not able to handle it yet. <br /><br /> My husband and I have decided to stay home by ourselves this Thanksgiving, rather than try to join another happy family's festivities (although someone was gracious and kind to invite us). We don't want to have to pretend happiness for so many hours.GrahamForeverInMyHearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15567227324094005373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-91138797111531136562013-11-10T23:36:23.860-08:002013-11-10T23:36:23.860-08:00Only seems normal to me that Eva would be missed b...Only seems normal to me that Eva would be missed by her mom and family. Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10926080379801096543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-66871555833021080682013-11-10T19:36:32.809-08:002013-11-10T19:36:32.809-08:00Thank you for your honesty. You are blazing the t...Thank you for your honesty. You are blazing the trail of grief for me and many others. Grief is not always pretty or easy to read about, but processing it and living those feelings are what allows the joy back in, at least that is what I believe. Grace's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15208469231684698972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-61279833037134201242013-11-10T13:07:10.985-08:002013-11-10T13:07:10.985-08:00I also want to add, A3B, that at the 10 month mark...I also want to add, A3B, that at the 10 month mark my grief was also bigger and heavier than any joy. Joy didn't come back to me for real until over 1.5 years from her death. And then, fleetingly. It has grown over the past 6 months. Enough so that I am actually able to write a post like this where I admit to feeling joy. I'm so glad, also, that my blog has been helpful for you. It is for you and the ones who walk this road that I write...it means a lot to me that it means a lot to you. Love, EmEmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-33300477953241216692013-11-10T13:03:02.630-08:002013-11-10T13:03:02.630-08:00A3B, it is unnerving. Incredibly so. You hit that ...A3B, it is unnerving. Incredibly so. You hit that nail on the head there.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-70363148594574565092013-11-10T11:36:31.592-08:002013-11-10T11:36:31.592-08:00And miss Eva you should. All the while rejoicing i...And miss Eva you should. All the while rejoicing in your life, your husband and your children and your God. It is a balanced hand holding for sure. He gives grace! {hugs} Beccyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07063220741169180825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-69770033901504528072013-11-10T00:18:59.459-08:002013-11-10T00:18:59.459-08:00Joy and grief, hand in hand. That's an amazin...Joy and grief, hand in hand. That's an amazing description, though for me the hand of grief is heavier, bigger, right now. I am so glad to have come across your blog after my son died. <br /><br />I'm sorry there is someone in your life who has a perverse need to spy on you yet keep their distance in reality. I'd find that incredibly unnerving. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com