tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post2577996494159625282..comments2023-04-01T03:49:22.593-07:00Comments on After Eva: ExpectationsEmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-57478572784146820122013-11-03T18:22:02.770-08:002013-11-03T18:22:02.770-08:00That's actually exactly where I was going with...That's actually exactly where I was going with this post. That there are so many mothers out there who don't have these expectations of a full life for their children...exactly there. Thanks for the comment MrsH.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-65154712923143486092013-11-02T22:31:47.899-07:002013-11-02T22:31:47.899-07:00I was reading about some of the countries in Afric...I was reading about some of the countries in Africa where there is an expectation that every mother will lose one child at least in her life. A given. How would one live knowing that? How would one have the courage to have children? <br /><br />I am with you, not always sure of a good outcome, but hoping for one anyway. MrsHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18277631338883839373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-73666448476476978102013-11-01T16:04:43.393-07:002013-11-01T16:04:43.393-07:00Em, my perspective on my guys and their lives is s...Em, my perspective on my guys and their lives is so different now. I think it does make a huge difference. It has changed how I spend my time with them, and my hopes and dream for their future, way more open handed... PBE's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09102113303949863286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-3035080267652298512013-10-31T13:31:29.004-07:002013-10-31T13:31:29.004-07:00I don't think it's arrogant to expect your...I don't think it's arrogant to expect your child to live. Almost all children in the West live - you have to be a really unlucky bugger to have a child that dies - especially if they live past 6 months and have no discernible health problems. <br /><br />I think it's just a function of our distress that we worry about our kids like we do. I know I am much less anxious than I was when M was younger. I am hopeful that we will both get better xx Loads of love to you Em - it is a very human to anticipate the best - we have just experienced the worst - so I think it makes our judgement a litle awry xxSusanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08189847375191755096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-72357744753330568682013-10-30T12:31:58.364-07:002013-10-30T12:31:58.364-07:00I think that people know that children can die, bu...I think that people know that children can die, but they believe this applies only to OTHER people's children. After it happens to you, you realize that you are now one of the OTHERS. There is no returning to the innocence that we once enjoyed.GrahamForeverInMyHearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15567227324094005373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-65152681827138727782013-10-29T19:12:07.128-07:002013-10-29T19:12:07.128-07:00I had to share this. You wrote my life, friend.I had to share this. You wrote my life, friend.Devanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623352274996033195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-71573482596190822612013-10-28T20:42:14.144-07:002013-10-28T20:42:14.144-07:00Yes, I can tell the difference. Most people know ...Yes, I can tell the difference. Most people know that children can and do die, but you Know it. Giant capital K. That's different than expecting that they will die. I also don't take it for granted that my children will outlive me, though I think my capital K is probably smaller than yours (having experienced some medical scares but not the loss of a child). I often think that If I can get to the end of my life with all of my children still alive (and hopefully healthy and happy) then that will truly be enough for me, and I will be grateful. TShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06535861927596022108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-60020628520096212612013-10-28T20:19:13.740-07:002013-10-28T20:19:13.740-07:00Over five years after Caleb's death I check on...Over five years after Caleb's death I check on my daughter repeatedly. I have a sickening feeling in my stomach when I'm approaching her door because I am afraid that she won't be alive. Caleb died during the night and I think that this is going to stay with me forever. It might manifest itself differently as my youngest gets older, but I will never get over it. <br /><br />Sorry others experience similar feelings...can be awful :(<br /><br />Hugs and Hope,<br />CherylCherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09995656964857816898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-11054220579775508202013-10-28T17:49:59.754-07:002013-10-28T17:49:59.754-07:00Thank you for commenting Beccy. I appreciate it wh...Thank you for commenting Beccy. I appreciate it when people read and comment. Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-51533841128977082682013-10-28T17:49:31.849-07:002013-10-28T17:49:31.849-07:00Yes. I'm not sure if I'm afraid of it or i...Yes. I'm not sure if I'm afraid of it or if it's just more of an awareness that there is that very real possibility that he could be dead. I know I would survive but I don't want to. I've had enough of that.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-13174468861731404002013-10-28T17:47:30.989-07:002013-10-28T17:47:30.989-07:00Yes, it does.Yes, it does.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-941611842817297232013-10-28T16:25:36.960-07:002013-10-28T16:25:36.960-07:00I agree with you. Well said. Infertility changed...I agree with you. Well said. Infertility changed my expectations too. I'm pretty cynical.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-62973359773437810062013-10-28T16:18:57.805-07:002013-10-28T16:18:57.805-07:00Yes, I see the difference. We must hold our childr...Yes, I see the difference. We must hold our children and our spouses in an open hand. Love and enjoy fully while they are with us. Each and every day is a gift all from the One who holds us in the hollow of His hand. <br /><br />I continue to pray for you and yours even though I haven't commented on your blog in a while. I stop in whenever I can. lots of love, Beccy Beccyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07063220741169180825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-5438050771507944442013-10-28T14:53:31.058-07:002013-10-28T14:53:31.058-07:00The miracle of the nap. I too hold my breath ever...The miracle of the nap. I too hold my breath every time I go to check on Rosabella, I am so afraid that she won't be breathing. I am not sure if I expect her to be gone, but the realness that she COULD be is something I don't believe I understood before Grace died.Grace's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15208469231684698972noreply@blogger.com