tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post2472482075103352493..comments2023-04-01T03:49:22.593-07:00Comments on After Eva: Mike, among other men.Emhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-30265705715857718782012-02-19T00:37:00.951-08:002012-02-19T00:37:00.951-08:00That poem is just beautiful, and I emailed it to m...That poem is just beautiful, and I emailed it to my husband shortly after Molly died. He cried and said thank you. <br /><br />I think men, for the most part, focus on being strong and taking care of their partners. I think it helps my husband to feel like he's helping me, but I also know he grieves Molly's death intensely. He has been my rock and my strength, and I seriously don't know what I'd do without him. I am beyond grateful for him. <br /><br /> A loss like this can put a definite strain on a relationship, but thankfully my husband and I continue to cling to and support one another. I'm not saying that it's not incredibly hard work, though.MissingMollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06392712704302023431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-69649148795181056882012-02-18T20:01:40.030-08:002012-02-18T20:01:40.030-08:00Hello,
I have always felt sad, in some ways, for ...Hello,<br /><br />I have always felt sad, in some ways, for my husband after our son Caleb died in August of 2008. He has no close friends like I do and I am not sure when the last time was that he spoke with someone outside of our family about the loss of Caleb. <br /><br />I think that men have just as much grief, but don't have the same outlets that women have, for the most part. We are very verbal (women) and will find outlets to express ourselves. Men suffer just as much with the loss of a baby/child and don't have as many healthy ways of trying to cope in a way that expresses how they are feeling. <br /><br />I have often wished that someone would pull him aside and ask him how he was doing. Even though we are into our third year of grief, it is still so close to the surface. It has gotten softer over time, but at any given time I can still find myself in tears. I still don't wear mascara.<br /><br />With love and Hope,<br />CherylCherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09995656964857816898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-65184964023827478102012-02-17T17:50:00.626-08:002012-02-17T17:50:00.626-08:00Hi Em - I'm a new follower and fellow baby los...Hi Em - I'm a new follower and fellow baby lost mom, we lost our son, James, in Jan 2011. I have to say I have found some new perspective reading about your journey and hearing you try and put words to the unspeakable.<br /><br />Your most recent post reminds me of one I wrote last year after I too found the poem on the blog for dads who have lost. My Mike and I have struggled as we carve our own paths through our loss but always find ourselves on the same page in the moments that matter most.<br /><br />Sending love, support & warm thoughts of Eva tonight.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00764864373068616461noreply@blogger.com