tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post2160678870040014454..comments2023-04-01T03:49:22.593-07:00Comments on After Eva: Ashes, Ashes...Emhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-69628637053197802962012-09-04T03:52:28.731-07:002012-09-04T03:52:28.731-07:00I'm new to your blOg, I lost my little girl on...I'm new to your blOg, I lost my little girl on August 11 2011, August 26 was also the day we said goodbye to our daughter. Thibking of you Xsallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03609439637500935636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-50832902733288817912012-09-02T07:46:13.153-07:002012-09-02T07:46:13.153-07:00Thank you. I hope it helps you to find other pare...Thank you. I hope it helps you to find other parents and that it helps more parents to find your blog.GrahamForeverInMyHearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15567227324094005373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-51652784411280978722012-09-02T07:30:18.089-07:002012-09-02T07:30:18.089-07:00It doesn't matter how young or old they are, t...It doesn't matter how young or old they are, they are always our babies. <br /><br />I checked out your site. It's really well done and a tribute to your son. I will pass on the link to others too. And thank you for adding my blog.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11910371746336686970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-53047985555421619562012-09-02T06:41:49.034-07:002012-09-02T06:41:49.034-07:00I'm so sorry. I understand your pain. My 23 ye...I'm so sorry. I understand your pain. My 23 year old son died suddenly almost 15 weeks ago. Words can't capture the raw pain.<br />I've been putting together a site dedicated to bereaved parents and siblings. <br />http://www.scoop.it/t/grief-and-loss<br />I've added your blog.GrahamForeverInMyHearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15567227324094005373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-35398583642545378082012-08-28T18:24:32.010-07:002012-08-28T18:24:32.010-07:00I found this one hard to read, partially b/c of ho...I found this one hard to read, partially b/c of how raw it was, mostly b/c it felt like a page out of my own journey. Horrible, horrible thing to have in common but grateful to have found each other. Thinking of you & Eva and my James tonight.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00764864373068616461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-5497438422798179392012-08-28T14:49:56.983-07:002012-08-28T14:49:56.983-07:00I'm sorry nobody remembered such a significant...I'm sorry nobody remembered such a significant date. A terrible, painful memory in itself, intensified by your anger that nobody else seemed to care. What a lonely, awful feeling. TShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06535861927596022108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-373200378988922162012-08-28T11:43:08.062-07:002012-08-28T11:43:08.062-07:00Em, I admire you so much for caring for Eva yourse...Em, I admire you so much for caring for Eva yourselves. In life you mothered her, in death you mothered her. And it's the most difficult parenting in the whole world. I wish that I would have stayed with Nathaniel's body until the crematorium. We took him from the hospital to the mortuary, and my husband placed him in the funeral director's arms, and we walked out of the building and fell apart. It was like we were dropping him off at childcare. Only we were leaving him behind forever. I wish that I would have held him in my arms until the very end, because he needed to be in my arms. As hard as it would have been, I wish that I would have been there for him. <br /><br />There is no other appropriate response other than screaming. Screaming and screaming and screaming. <br /><br />I wish I could hold your hand today, and make you hot cups of tea. I'm crying with you. <br /><br />xoxoxoSuzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01955054876521178314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-81620115576154396122012-08-27T10:25:16.513-07:002012-08-27T10:25:16.513-07:00The thought of anyone's precious child being d...The thought of anyone's precious child being destroyed in any way is torturous. Knowing it was my friend's child, is even worse. I wouldn't want to entertain the thought of such a thing happening to any of my own children. What that does to a person's heart is beyond me... unimaginable.<br />All I can say is a have en enormous amount of respect for those parents who've experienced such horrific things and remain sane.<br />Anella, I respect and admire you for the way you've handled yourself through all this heartache and turmoil. I pray God will bless you exceedingly!Chassidahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14153945740225593762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-32463950389899332822012-08-27T07:48:33.045-07:002012-08-27T07:48:33.045-07:00Em, I am so, so sorry. I think picking up A's ...Em, I am so, so sorry. I think picking up A's ashes was almost the very worst of everything for me; knowing my baby was inside that horrible green velvet bag; that her little body had burned; that all the hope of her was in a plastic baggie inside that awful bag. I'm just so sorry - for you and Eva and all the babies and mothers. And I know your rage; I feel it too and hate it. March is for daffodilshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11287273786322029725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-24982202366625164702012-08-27T06:30:52.219-07:002012-08-27T06:30:52.219-07:00Oh, I am so sorry. I did not know this was the day...Oh, I am so sorry. I did not know this was the day. Painful memories, sweet memories ...Eva's life has touched all of our hearts forever. Beccyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07063220741169180825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-73574107318225514872012-08-27T06:10:41.434-07:002012-08-27T06:10:41.434-07:00Oh, Em. Sending you so much love. I'm sorry ...Oh, Em. Sending you so much love. I'm sorry nobody remembered, regardless of whether they should have or not. And I'm sorry you had to go through what you did. Such horrors, really. Hugs to you, mama. XxJennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16614232173945249682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-33866883117711756882012-08-27T02:34:03.262-07:002012-08-27T02:34:03.262-07:00Oh love. I just try not to think about it, the cre...Oh love. I just try not to think about it, the cremation. Because I can't believe it, that I let her burn. But I couldn't face burying her either. I suppose I just desperately, desperately wished that she wasn't dead and that I didn't have to do either of these things to that little body that I loved so much. <br /><br />I'm so sorry that nobody remembered with you. It's so hard as these dates pass and we are the only ones who do. But, as you say, would I remember if it hadn't been my daughter? Probably not. And in many ways that makes me feel ashamed of my own selfishness. But there are probably only so many sad stories and awful things that one human heart can absorb. Sigh.<br /><br />And, of course, I am even more sorry that your Eva died. That you have a piece of your heart in a pewter horse that should have been a piggy bank for a little girl. Just so very sorry. Catherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-83245586797896147762012-08-26T23:30:38.471-07:002012-08-26T23:30:38.471-07:00so many awful anniversaries to mark Eva's pass...so many awful anniversaries to mark Eva's passing into the hands of Jesus. Very sweet that Samuel picked out his little sister's dress. My heart aches so much for you when I read about all the heartache you've been through...praying!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10926080379801096543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-60268971965608201892012-08-26T22:39:35.057-07:002012-08-26T22:39:35.057-07:00I am so sorry for you and your family. I wish tha...I am so sorry for you and your family. I wish that there were words that would be sufficient to comfort you. I can't wait some day to see my Caleb's glorified body, but until then all I have to hold onto some of God's promises like... <br /><br />“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. ” 2 Corinthians 12:9 and <br /><br />"He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart." Psalm 91:4<br /><br />Also, I don't know if I shared this with you before or not, but I signed up for a daily email from this griefshare site and found they were very helpful. http://www.griefshare.org/ <br /><br />I am not usually up at 1:37 in the morning, but am having an allergy attack and decided to turn the computer on. God is giving me this extra time during my usual sleeping hours to pray and I will pray for you and your family.<br /><br />With hugs and Hope,<br />CherylCherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09995656964857816898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-41108529119913509722012-08-26T22:02:08.375-07:002012-08-26T22:02:08.375-07:00Anella, reading your blogs and through your honest...Anella, reading your blogs and through your honesty sharing in your grief. It hurts and I can't even imaging how much it must hurt you. I feel so helpless, I think we all do. But thank you for letting us be part of it a little bit. <br />ElisabethElisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01116305119771349942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76554524397208747.post-643692010761074422012-08-26T21:01:50.793-07:002012-08-26T21:01:50.793-07:00Time goes by but the pain is still searing. There...Time goes by but the pain is still searing. There is so much I want to say here, and yet I can't really say anything. I guess it's just easier to talk in person through the tears. Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09441574922783146160noreply@blogger.com